by affi — Monday, April 27th, 2009 at 1:57 pm
in Editor's Note and tagged with Body Image, Curvy Women
For as long as I can remember, I have always been curvy. Sure, there were times when I weighed less than I do now (pre-baby obviously) but I think I’ve always been within that curvy spectrum. Like any normal girl, I struggled with some negative self-image, largely because of my body, but I can now proudly say that I am far behind it and have now reached a state where I am truly and positively happy with myself – curves and all.
Unfortunately, other people seem to have more problems with it than myself 
I can’t tell you how many times I have received negative comments regarding my weight, from the polite “You look ‘healthy’!” to the more blatant “Why are you so fat now?”. These comments used to upset me to no end, but I have learned to smile, ignore them and not let it get to me. Yes, those comments are rude but most of the people who make such comments do not intend to put me down on purpose, we are just conditioned to think that it’s okay to say those things and expect the people in the receiving end to not be offended. What I do instead, is try not to make those kinds of comments to other people, including making any fat jokes that is even more cruel and mean-spirited. Furthermore, I also try not to make comments/jokes about skinny people because I don’t think it’s okay to do that either. I just refuse to make body weight as a big issue because we have far more important ones to think and do something about.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not encouraging anyone to stuff themselves with junk food and be a couch-potato all their life. It is important to be healthy. But it’s also important to enjoy yourself. I am not a health-nut, but I try to live a healthy lifestyle. There is nothing more I love than wholesome meal made with the freshest ingredients and I try to do yoga as much as possible (though admittedly not as much I should lately). But one thing is clear, I will never be supermodel-thin and I am totally and utterly fine with it.
From left : ANTM winner Whitney Thompson, model Kate Dillon, model Johanna Dray all courtesy of curvystyle.com
When it comes to fashion, I learn through trials and errors about what works and doesn’t work for me. Sure, I had moments where I wish I could wear this or that, but I don’t get hung up on what I can’t wear but focus on what I can. I love getting dressed up and dolled up and I refuse to give that up just because I don’t look like people on the magazines. I love dresses because they’re flattering and I slowly build my wardrobe with pieces that make me look and feel good. I avoid shops that only have small-sizes clothes and enjoy the thrill of finding places that cater to women in all sizes and shapes. In short, I am proud and embrace my curves wholeheartedly and I will teach my daughter to do the same.
I guess what I’m trying to say is this : we’ve only got 1 life and 1 body. Instead of putting all effort and money to change the body we’ve been blessed with, why not try to be the best we can be? We live in a weight-0bsessed world, that I don’t deny, but don’t let anyone dictate what you should look like. Be it curvy, skinny, short, boyish, big or small – simply own it and be happy
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Knitwear, wrap dress, top and accessories from evan.co.uk
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Ah Koukla, tulisanmu yg ini membuat hatiku berbunga2 *curahan hati very curvy lady*
Like my Hubby keep saying that I’m not fat but full !!!
Luv ya Fi…..keep curvy !
Indrya darling, you are one of the most gorgeous full-figured woman I have ever seen! You better believe it!
Aaaaah Affi, I’m blushing and flattered……
*Lah jadi chatting ini hahahaha*
Thanks darling ! mmmuach !
yay !!! my favorite post ever !!!
Sama dgn Mba Koukla, aku juga curvey…
Rasanya selalu pengen nangis liat skinny girls yang bebas make baju yg mereka mau.
Habis baca artikel ini rasanya seneng dan sedikit termotivasi buat lebih mensyukuri apa yang dimiliki instead of whining all the time…
Great article, Mba Koukla!!! *keplok keplok
Awesome post, Koukla!!! Love it!
When people said that I looked way big…my usual retort would be “I’m not big, you are just small” I used to worry bout my weight, too. All through my life, I was either the tallest or the biggest. God knows the money I spent getting me to the “right” weight could be used to send 100+ poor kids to universities. Nowadays, I said, “that’s it!, I’ll watch what I eat, I loose weight when I need to and feel like it.”
Go Curvy! Go Big!
badan gw termasuk yang curvy….
gw bangga dengan bentuk tubuh gw, soalnya justru temen-temen deket gw banyak yang bilang kalau gw sexy, hehehehe…
walaupun ada ruginya juga sih punya badan seperti ini…
gw pernah 2x mengalami sesuatu yang ga mengenakkan di dalam kendaraan umum
aku termasuk keceng tapi ikutan ya.
Belakangan ini sejak join fd, aku makin bisa ngeliat bahwa setiap wanita itu cantik secara unik. Dulu aku juga merasa curvy ladies are not pretty (and I regret I had that point of view), tapi entah kenapa sekarang aku bisa melihat semuanya cantik dan bahkan gorgeous.
*curhat colongan*
And being a keceng girl tidak seenak yang dibayangkan orang. Kami sering merasa seperti tulang, tidak sehat, tidak menarik, susah cari baju karena seringkali tenggelam dalam baju. Tapi aku berusaha menerima diriku
I’m glad you posted this post, dear Koukla!
Lita
Thanks sweetie, glad you like it
Jingga
I’m glad you feel that way after reading this. Complaining and whining all the time is rather unattractive, don’t you think?
Pia
Thank you! I was also always the biggest and tallest amongst my friends and felt so self-conscious about it. So glad you agree with me about not wanting to waste anymore time and money to be thin
Bittersweet_cho
Ah that’s right, I totally forgot about those awful incidents that I also had thanks to my curves. Luckily I’m big enough to kick anyone’s ass if they ever try to do that to me again LOL
me like this article..
selalu nya klo nonton fashion tv jadi ngerasa ndut bgt…hehehe…
tp artikel n foto2 model yg menarik diatas memebesarkan hatiku
esiotrot
Intinya work what you have ya, daripada terus2an mengeluh kurang tinggi, kurang langsing, kurang montok dll, cape deh
alia
kalo tolak ukurnya sama model2 di fashion tv sih susah ya bow, they were born with that kind of body type and get paid for it! Jadi pasti lah ada usaha2 dari mereka juga untuk mempertahankan bentuk tubuhnya supaya kayak gitu. Me? I’d like to keep my body out of work and not worry about ordering dessert *reaching for pisang goreng*
fi, great article! gw link kesini boleh yah
Couldn’t agree more.. pandangan awam memang udah mematok bahwa yg ideal itu adalah yg begini begitu.. I think no matter what size are we in, we should be thankful and be confident for it
krn kalo ngikutin omongan orang mah ga ada abisnya.. dulu waktu aku ms lebih berisi, pd bilang you should go on a diet bla bla bla.. skr setelah i lose some weight, ada yg bilang krn kurusan jd keliatan tua.. never ending hehe..
hwahhh… seneng deh baca’nya…
seneng banget baca tulisan ini, Koukla. Thank you for sharing
ga apa2 ga punya badan skinny ah, yang penting happy dan healthy tentunya. hehehe..
Koukla, I agree with you. Bahkan ngga cuma sapaan, “Gemuk banget sih kamu sekarang?” or “Gendutan yaa..?”, kadang menyebalkan sekali deh kalo udah liat orang yang badannya kurus tapi terus2an ribut, “Duuuh, gue gemuk banget ya?”, yang kalau dilihat-lihat ukuran celananya aja 3 size lebih kecil dari gue. Puh…leeaasse…
Affi, baru kemarin g dikomentari sama adik ipar g kalau perut g ini lipatan kelihatan…
Pas lihat postingan ini, g menjadi lebih bersyukur, tetap sih memotivasi diri untuk mengurangi beberapa kilogram dengan tujuan untuk lebih sehat aja.
hai, just wanna share aja sih, manusia itu emang gemar sekali berkomentar ya. Gw pernah mengalami saat gw “curvy”, dan mulai dari buah dada sampe bentuk lengan, semuaaa dikomentari. Gila ya, gada abisnya gitu komentar2nya.. ehh.. begitu badan gw kembali ke bentuk semula, orang2 malah komentar kaya orang sakit lah, pipi cekung banget lah, dibilang kurang gizi lah.. ada aja dehh..
anyway, good post koukla
i like this post very mucho!! gue jg udah mengaccept klo badan gue emang segini2 aja, syukur2 deh klo ngga makin melar lagi. banyak temen2 cewe gue yg at least pas smp/sma pernah ngerasain punya badan kurus. me? kyaknya dari smp juga udah segini T__T (i’m very bottom heavy). i do have days dimana gue sebel2 yah krn ga bisa pake baju tertentu tp yasudahlahhhhhhh… those thoughts go away quickly ^^.
i’m curvey too..and proud of it..my hubby also said..i’m not fat but i’m full..hehehehehe…
eh..eh..gw jadi keingetan sama slogannya TBS beberapa tahun yg lalu..they said: Tidak harus berbadan kurus dan berkulit putih untuk menikmati hidup..*kalo ga salah kira2 seperti itu.hehehe
Hidup Koukla! *lho* =D
I’ve been always a heavy person (except when I was in KG ‘n early years of primary school hehe). ‘N it was hard to be skinny for me … coz of my curve (big Bs … boobs ‘n butt =D). Sometimes I didn’t bother, sometimes I just want to throw a ‘bakiak’ to anyone making comment about it LOL.
You know what … I get used to get that kinda comment only when I’m in Indonesia or inside Indonesian community. Sorry to say, but for me it’s always like this. ‘N since I moved to stay in Egypt, or let’s say when I was traveling abroad … never had I got sucha ‘sweet’ comment from anyone around. I don’t know … maybe in Indonesia (or Asia in general? cmiiw), the first impression is coming from the body shape.
Makasih, Koukla … udah posting suara hati org2 yg padat berisi hehehe ..
Koukla, a girl after my own heart! I also found that size may influence people’s perspective about your personality. I observe that bigger built is likely to be associated with bolder, stronger personality. I’m considerably bigger built than my fellow Indonesian friends here, and I think it makes me stand out. People often say that I’m more outspoken and outgoing while my friends are more on the sweet and timid side, which is not true at all. But I think that’s a plus side of being bigger built, so I’ll take it as a compliment
baru2 ini ada temen lamaaaa banget yang nemuin gue di fesbuk, trus ngajak chatting gitu. He said, “kamu sekarang gendut yah” and I said “iya donq, lemak2 kebahagiaan nih (courtesy of Woro – red), elo ntar juga gitu loh kalo udah kawin”. Padahal dia lebih gendut dari gue loh.. And I felt like I kicked his ass karna abis itu dia ga tau mo ngomong apa hahahhahaha..
It’s much better to be curvy and healthy daripada skinny kalo ternyata malah bikin kita keliatan kayak orang sakit
Awesome article, Affi..
Love this post!!! makes me feel grateful with my own body shape.. gw merasa skrg ini banyak org terlalu terobsesi dgn tubuh mereka, sampai yg uda kurus pun masih berasa gendut.. memang bener, kita hidup cuman sekali, so we have to make the best of it..
Thanks Koukla for inspiring us..
Ragil: gue juga sebel banget kalo orang yg komentar gitu ternyata badannya lebih gede dari gue. Sebenernya sih pengen gue bilang “lo gak punya kaca ya di rumah??” cuma takut disambit sama emak gue. Soalnya sering komentar2 ini munculnya di acara yg beradab, misalnya pesta keluarga
yay on full figure women! go curvy!
to Rere: ih, bener bgt lho … sama ky gw, biasanya komen2 itu justru pas di acara kluarga =(
skinny is boring ! hidup wanita montok nan seksi !
I don’t think skinny is boring, neither do I think that curvy is ugly.
Semua bentuk tubuh itu udah ada rejeki nya masing2 dari Tuhan. How we rock it, that’s the main thing..
I personally love curvy figure more than skeletal figure. Cuma perfect/ideal nya itu curvy yang proporsional.. kayak si Whitney itu.. atau kayak goddesses back in the 50′s. Atau kayak Kelly Brooke… *dreamy* And I think those beautiful body curves can be obtained by working out and proper diet too…
Ah.. I want my boobs bigger and firmer, just like miss Kelly brooke.. hiihihihhihii.. jangan di sensor yah komen gw mods!
Ahaha, great job Koukla..
Clothes should fit your body and not the other way around!
The best article by fashionesedaily by far. Congratulations!
chylpester,
Silakan rin, thank you ya for the link
sugarenspice & amalia,
Bener banget! That’s why we shouldn’t even try to please anyone else but ourselves when it comes to our body shapes
ella_ajah, miracle & classic,
You’re welcome and that’s right, healthy is the key!
Opi,
Hehehe emang banyak sih ya cewek2 yang langsing tapi masih ribut gendat gendut aja, artinya emang punya badan langsing bukan berarti orangnya pede dan merasa happy kan
disti,
Funny, I don’t even remember you as bottom-heavy, you just looked slim to me
Kiki Noval,
And yes, I remember that TBS campaign. I think there should be more campaign along that line..
Aren’t we lucky to have a husband who loves every bit of us
Ria,
Emang bener kok, di Indonesia kayaknya masih banyak yg nganggep komen2 kayak gitu tuh nggak rude dan mereka nggak mikir aja bahwa yg dikomentarin bisa tersinggung. Coba kalo ngomong gitu ke orang luar kalo gak ditabok 
Ya anyway, agak susah sih ya mengharapkan orang bisa berubah. People will always say stuff like that, makanya harus dari kitanya aja yang merubah cara pandang kita sendiri. And we have to really believe that we look fabulous no matter what people say! 
You’re welcome!
Rere,
Yeah you’re right, it is a plus side!
That’s so true! One of my best friends is very petite (and I look like her mother whenever I walk with her) and people just assume I’m the one with the stronger and bolder personality and she’s the shy one, while the truth is she is much more feisty than me
Oh btw kalo soal komen2 nggak ngenakin di acara keluarga sih gue jg udah kenyaaaang. Paling bete kalo yg komen yg gak kenal2 banget kayak temen2nya nyokap gue gitu, duh plis deh, gak minta makan sama elo kok ribut aja
Ragil,
Thanks dearest! I sometimes think that those who love talking about other people’s weights are actually more obsessed/self-conscious about their own shapes. Dan kayaknya aneh aja yah udah lama gak ketemu trus tiba2 kok yang diomongin berat badan, emang gak ada omongan lain?
mel,
I’m so happy to hear that!
Slesta,
Go curvy momma! hhehehe
svendira & Lorelai,
Ya tiap orang sih pasti punya preference ya untuk bentuk badan yg mereka mau/suka tuh seperti apa. Kalo badan yang ideal itu bisa dicapai dgn working out then by all means do it! That sure is much more effective than just sitting around moping about it
Solaia & hdn
Thank you so much guys!
affi… sama lah kita… (nggk deng… elo masih lbh kuyus dari gue…
)… kadang lbh mudah made my weight as a joke rather heard form somebody else… jd setiap gue ngajar, yah “kelebihan” gue ini lumayan lah bisa jd hiburan di kelas… amal kan yah, bikin orang ketawa (aka happy)… 
Aaahh… setuju!!!!
I’m happy with my body now. I used to be soooooo thin, and my friends envy me. Sekarang berat badan gw udah naik 5-8 kg, dan jadi lebih berat dari temen2 gw. But I’m much happier now (meskipun kayanya paha gw jadi kegedean hehehe…)
Sayang banget kalo kita diet mati2an cuma gara2 pengen sekurus model. Syukuri aja tubuh kita dengan menjaganya tetap sehat. Banyak cara buat tetep sehat kok
this article sounds like : welcome to the curvy club, I’m in! Thanks Koukla.
wew..
what a nice article
lupakan size zero
curvy is better as long as we know how to show the best angle
hehehe
btw, IMHO curvy girls justru terlihat sangat sexy dan cantik klo pake tube dress, ato yang tanpa lengan, karena gw ga suka model terlalu kurus itu klo pake yang tanpa lengan tulang belulang belikat nya kelihatan semua
hehehe
Sebenernya yang bikin nggak enak diliat itu bukan body shapenya, tapi cara berpakaiannya. Padahal kan model2 baju yang flattering untuk dipakai sama yang full figured, tapi sayangnya banyak yang males dan cuma pake baju seada adanya yang bikin mereka jadi nggak terlihat attractive sama sekali. They need to learn from you fi..hihi, makanya sering2 dong post TO
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very nice article Koukla. gw juga curvy. gak enaknya memang sering dijailin sama orang-2 ya. inget waktu sma, gw dijulukin dolly parton
beeeteee banget deh… sampe gw gak berani ikut basket dan selalu pake baju yg kedodoran gitu. untung setelah kuliah dan kerja badan udah lebih proporsional 
Yeahhhh fi I agree with you! Skarang gue udah gak peduli deh walaupun kadang orang nanya gue hamil lagi atau gak :p
Thats why I always hide behind my dresses to hide all the fat and embrace the curve
affi bagus tulisannya!!!
ragil, emang kadang2 suka sebel sama org2 yang komentarin “elo gendutan” tapi dia ga ngaca dirinya sendiri. terus kenapa kalo genduttt….?????!!!! toh ga masuk neraka :p
kliatannya kurus ato gendut itu lebih tergantung pada siapa yang ada disebelahnya d, contohnya gini : klo gw lagi jalan sama suami gw yang badannya jauh lebih guede daripada gw, maka orang2 akan ngeliat gw kurusan, tapi klo gw jalannya sama adek gw yang kecil mungil, pasti orang2 bakal komen klo gw gendutan…heheheeh, yah begitulah.. agak confused juga sebenernya:p
me looks so “healthy”
but i don’t care
love this post
yay for curvyness!!
mba affi setuju banget sama artikel lo…
) krn itu jd ID gw..kata temen2 deket gw lagi “Ina kalo ga montok bukan ina” hihihihi
Sepanjang hidup gw selalu penuh dengan komentar “INA ENDUT, INA ENDUT….” di es em a ada sebutan “ina yg mana yg endut apa yg langsing?? (krn ada dua ina di angkatan gw)” segitunya ya hidup di Indo…tapi aye teteup PeDe…sampe ada seorang cowo yg nanya sama gw “lo tuh endut ya Na tp gw binun lo ga minder?” HAlah kenapa juga musti minder, coz this is who I AM and am very HAPPY with my body..klo lo ga suka, Get Lost!!!wakakakak..setelah makin dewasa gw malah bersyukur ga ceking langsing kaya temen2 gw (sorry ya temans, lo semua tetep cantik kok
Brilliant article Fi..just LURVE IT!!!
Berkaca2 membaca banyaknya comment….
*lebay*
gw… gw… lagi terobsesi pake bikini warna disko
keukeuh sumekeuh buat bikin rata perut, tapi menyadar diri bahwa bagian yg lain memang sudah genetis cetakannya begitu… ahahahaha
gw sih hepi-hepi aja ama bentuk badan gw yg kembung (yg ngeliat gw kurus, terimakasih banyak…) dan gak ada yg meragukan kehepian gw ituh… hahahahaha secara, gw sehat bener… fit marofit secara jasmani ye… klo mental mesti nge-tes dulu dah
krn gw montok-sehat-kenyal-asoi, kadang gw ngeliat anak muda yg badannya tipis, suka pengen gw patahin tuh badannya… hahahahaha *iri* tapi ya cuma pemikiran bodor gw sih, gak ada kamsud buat insult ato apa-apa…
eniweeei, setubuh… yg penting kita hepi & menghargai diri kita sendiri, sehat juga ceria
*halah*
artikel keren Fi, two tumbs up *halah, udah panjang aja komennya*
Gww banged nih artikel nya … So far gw selalu berusaha untuk menerima bentuk tubuh gw apa ada nya cm kok ga bs ya .. kok rasanya kl lagi mau pake baju gaya2 ..kok ngerasa ah ndut banged sih haha tp ya gt deh mullut gw kl udah ketemu makanan susah di kontrol ..sikat abisss
Tapi gw suka gerah kl liat org udah ndut … pake bajunya ketat banged ,, bawaan gw yg begah ..udah gt kucel dan keringetan .. alamak !!
Tante Jenny, you are soo bootylicious, gue mau banget deh tukeran badannya sama elo..especially you know which part..hahahaha…
to be honest yah, issue ini yang bikin aku males posting TO di forum. Just because I know there are some of them yang ga bisa liat the way I use the outfit- not my body. Somehow, I can see their eyes judging my body, again- not the outfit i wear.
Tho I am not proud of my body, because it is unhealthy- and I need to work so hard to achieve balance. Tapi gimanapun juga, proudly I say- sounds arrogant indeed, i can dress better than most of skinny girls out there =D
mamita,
Daripada sakit hati mendingan becandain aja hehehe
Wah sama bgt! Gue jg sering bgt becandain bentuk tubuh gue. I think it’s important for us curvy girls to have a sense of humor about it and not take everything too seriously. This is also how I ‘combat’ those negative comments
anin,
Amen to that!
Vian,
You’re welcome!
Juris,
Thank you. Kalo gue masih suka nggak pede sih pake anything sleeveless karena tangan gue kurang toned. I gotta go back to the gym before I’m comfortable showing my arms. Tapi kan masih banyak baju lain yg gue bisa pake
Hanzky,
Bisa aja lo nyambung2in ke TO
Lisa,
If you got it, flaunt it!
Deszell,
You’re doing a great job in looking fab amal darling!
Lita & ChaCha,
Thank you!
mehan,
Berarti ada untungnya jg dong ya suami gue gak kurus hehehe Btw kalo di luar negeri, gue sebenernya jg masuknya regular-sized kali yaaa. Tapi kalo di antara orang Asia sih gue lumayan stand out karena tinggi besar
Lena,
Yay!
Inadya,
I love your attitude! Ada ya yg nanya kok lo gak minder? Hahhaha gilingaaan..Anyway, glad you like the post
tjetjep
Ya ilah tjep, elo sih gak ‘kembung’ kali. Lagian kalo akupunturnya berhasil sih good for you. Kalo gue sih dulu nggak ngaruh sama sekali..
jule,
Bener tuh kata Hani. You’re bootylicious! Perasaan elo kalo pake baju seksi2 aja tuh juuul! Your husband must be proud
modjo,
I honestly have never read anyone making bad comments regarding other members’ physical appearance but if that happened to you, I am sure not everyone shares the same opinion. I hope you’d feel comfortable posting your TO in the forum because now I want to see how you rock it! 
I’m sorry you feel that way
huuuuu gw suka disangka hamil
tapi emang sih perut kudu dikecilin…ga enak juga bagian perut doang yg endut. kalo bagian lainnya…cuexx bebekk yg penting sehat 
wooohooo for curvy women out there!!
no, we’re not fat, we’re huggable..
and no, we’re not fat.. there’s just ‘more’ to love..
hihihi
@koukla : yup its ok dear, yang penting we have to proud wth our body
hehehe
selamat nge-gym deh
Koukla, you boost my self-confidence. Thank You, darling…
Gw udah melewati masa2 “merasa gendut, beleber2, or apalah itu namanya”. Sekarang I’m quit. I just wanna be myself.
Kalo ada orang yang komentar, yeaaahhhh whatevaaa…
Topic ini memang akan selalu mejadi issue yang penting dalam kehidupan wanita kayanya ya…jadi thanks for the article..it’s a great one.
I guess everybody says it already…me personally still having a hard time accepting the shape of my body now.Although..my goal now is just to be healthy.
A great body shape is determine by your lifestyle, such as how often do you exersice and do you exercise a good diet.
Soo if you didn’t do what’s necessary..you better believe it…you are going to be “….”(Whatever we like to call it) ⌣
HAHAHA MANDUAR JUST LOVE UR QUOTE CHEERS!!!!
Wuastaga …haha .. tapi kok gw merasa terganggu ,,, berat bikin bahu gw pegel2 … ya namanya wanita kali yah selalu merasa ga pernah puas
Try to love it from now 
great and inspiring article…
Thanks uda remind kita to always be grateful for waht we have!
hopefully this article could enlight every male species mindset that women are formed & molded by our CREATOR with curves, naturally designed to bear children & feed them. Thus, they’ll think billions of times before leaving their mother of their child for someone’s skinnier & not yet giving birth
body image has always been an issue that i concern the most. it really bothers me how the world has set one standard of beauty and women become the subject of the standard. look at the harm it has done, most women in the world can never accept their own body. regardless how great their body is, there would be something they hate about their body and they would want their body to be what it is not. and the notion about “women could never be skinny enough” is the meanest notion ever existed. it sends a wrong message to women. no wonder eating disorder becomes so rampant among young people of any race.
so kudos to you, affi, for writing this smart and beautiful piece!
in term of picking out clothes, there is a saying: if the train doesn’t stop at your station then it is not your train. but that doesn’t mean that there would be no train for you.
same goes with clothes, if the clothes don’t fit you, nothing’s wrong with your body. it’s just the clothes is not for you.
most important thing: be healthy, be pretty, be happy!
baru bacaa nihh… setelah baca Fashionese Daily 2009 in Review…
baguss banget tulisan ini mbak affi…. aku juga curvy… diet forever intinya… jadi termotivasi bacanya… thank youu mbak!!
mbak affi, for me.. you alwayyss look cantikk banget! dengan lipstik merahmu apalagi senyum terussss =) bajuyg mbak affi pake juga selalu enak diliat!! next time kalau liat mbak affi aku mau nekad kenalan yahh… =)
cheerrss!!
inspiring, made me proud to be one curvy lady…:D
wow…very inspiring article!!like it..maap baru baca juga *ada setaon pulak*
i’m curvy too..di antara temen2 selalu paling gendut and tinggi..aku sempet ngalamin yang namanya ‘diet gila’..dari obat2an..sampe muntahin makanan2 yang aku makan..aku memang dapet berat badan ideal..tapi aku ga pernah cukup ‘happy’ untuk menikmati hidup..akhirnya sekarang balik lagi ke berat dulu sebelum diet..kenapa??karena i’m happy now!i’m happy with my life!!
sayangnya banyak orang yang selalu bilang ‘diet dong!’,'kamu kok jadi gendut?’..kalau kalimat2 itu nongol dari temen/orang lain sih paling sebel bentar trus udahan..sayangnya kalimat ini selalu muncul dari calon mertua..itu yang bikin aku kepikiran melulu..T__T
Wah maaf banget gue jg baru liat komen2 barunya..
purplerebel
Thanks dit. I really like the sentence “if the train doesn’t stop at your station then it is not your train. but that doesn’t mean that there would be no train for you.” I’ll keep that in mind the next time I walk into a store and walk out empty-handed
msnasta
Aww thank you so much! I’m sooo flattered! Next time ketemuan kita ngobrol yaa
ninarockz
Curvy girls unite! hehehe
shelley
Emang sih, kl komentar2 dateng dari orang yg deket itu rada susah sih ngadepinnya dan paling bikin sakit hati. Sayangnya justru mereka itu yg paling nggak ngerti kalo komentar2nya itu menyakiti. They think they’re actually doing us a favor by ‘reminding’ us that we need to lose weight! MIL aku jg sering ngeluarin komentar seperti itu dulu, tp sekarang2 ini (sejak udh kawin dan lbh deket hubungannya sama dia), aku cuma becandain aja dan komen2 balik seperti “But I’m happy and I think I’m beautiful”. Kl udh gitu biasanya dia nggak bisa berkata2 lagi. Tp ngomongnya jgn defensif ya. Sambil senyum aja
Anyway thanks for leaving a comment shel! Sering2 mampir yaa..