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Hanzky in Editorial — October 5th, 2007

Do you feel insecure to go all out when you’re dressing up? Are you afraid that people will think that you’re trying too hard to look good??

I just read an article in US Vogue September edition that talk about this topic and I thought that’s really interesting that makes me wonder if anyone here have felt the same way. You know the feeling when you’re done dressing up and when you look in the mirror you just feel too put together that makes you instantly take your jeweled stilettos off and slip into your peep toe flats instead? Or when you mess up your hair in purpose so you don’t look like you really care?? Or when you wipe the red lipstick just to take the edge off?.

Let me ask you this…..How many times do you buy special outfits that never seen the light of day? The silk blouse that has that wow effect, the dress that makes you feel like a million dollar, the gorgeous pencil skirt that guarantees a few turning heads when you wear it? They are still hanging in the closet. Your excuse? You’re still waiting for the right occasion..but that right occasion just never seem to come and you fall back into looking casual because it’s just easier.

It happens to me too..sometimes there’s just something that tells me not to waste a big effort into my appearance. I don’t go out looking like a train wreck but I can actually do much better had I put more effort and time into planning together my outfit. Often times, I also don’t put on some lipstick, just so I don’t look forced, or change the earrings into something simple to warrant a lesser attention. I don’t know why, but sometimes I just do..it’s always “I’m just going to the mall anyway”, or “I’ll put the lipstick on in the car”, but then I forget about it.

I guess it’s right that the world has turned even more casual now, where jeans can be worn for all kinds of occasion, where looking effortlessly chic is applauded and suggested, even when it actually takes a lot of effort to make you look like you’ve made no effort at all in your appearance. And there’s nothing wrong with going on that direction. But if studied glamor is more your style, and looking impeccable, looking perfect from head to toe is what you’re aiming for, then by all means, you should go for it. Don’t be afraid of all the naysayers, or your friends who will go like “duilee rapih amat sih bok, mau kemana emangnya?”. Don’t let them get in the way of you dressing the way you like it. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with looking like you’re trying. It’s okay to look like you get up an hour early to do your hair and make up, life is too short not to pay attention.

I remember the story that my grandma told me. She was all about dressing up back then since she was a teenager, but then her husband passed away in the early 70s. Of course she was devastated especially that it made her a single mother of 8 kids!! But that didn’t make her look drib and drab, she still took pride of the way she dressed…but then people started to smirk on her and teased her as if she dressed up because she was looking for a new husband. That made her sad and felt insecure, so she started not to care about her appearance, because she didn’t want people to look at her that way. It’s pretty sad when other people are so nosy and takes away what makes her happy and what makes her confident. I know that she should’ve just shrugged them off but I’m sure she had her reason. The point is, no one should make you feel like you don’t deserve to look good.

Besides, when you look put together, you’ll look classy and elegant and it makes you look powerful and in charge of your own life. Women in the past loved to dress up, and everyone looked neat, well groomed and sophisticated. They looked mature and they were not afraid to look their age unlike women of today who dress more casually to make them look younger. Remember, it’s harder to look good in casual outfit than it is in special outfit. And just like Rachel Zoe so eloquently put it, “If you show up looking a bit more glam than the rest, what’s the worst case scenario? You look the best in the room?” So, why are you avoiding looking your best?

Btw, when I write this..the girls from the forum; deszell, putduy, polkadot, darling and jellyfish come to mind. They are ladies who are not afraid to rock the heels, the gorgeous outfits, the pretty dresses, the sparkling accessories, the sexy tights, the make up and all that jazz. I don’t think the word casual exists in their dictionary….well done girls..=))

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Ambung

huehehhe Hanz, good topic nih.

gue juga kadang gitu…well, klo gue sih buka krn pingin tampil “sok” effortless chic & trendy yah..apalagi pake gaya rambut acak2..hahahaha gue tuh tipe yg kudu bawa sisir kemanapun. minimart kantor gue sisirnya laku krn gue sering ketinggalan sisir aja tuh.

kalo gue sih lbh ke arah “dgn siapa gue pergi”. well when i go to attend FD gathering atau di jkt jalan ama tmn2 kuliah gue, pasti gue prepare bgt (mgkn kecuali make up, krn gue memang gak dandan-an).
tp kyk disini di KL, gue suka pergi sm istri2nya tmn laki gue yg asli mereka tuh membuat gue ga enak utk “tampil”. krn mereka cuma pake jeans, sendal jepit teplek, tas ransel, & kaos (ada loh yg sukanya pake kaos suaminya jadi gombrong gitu). makanya kadang gue pake high heels, minidress, legging itu klo wiken pergi ama suami aja :). selebihnya gue jadi pake short/bermuda, tops yg lucu, & teplek. tp tetep lahh gue mah kagak mau ransel-an & pake kaos laki gue.heheheh

October 5th, 2007 at 11:02 am
ngelzz

ehehehe.. kadang iya juga sih pengen rada dress-up buat kemanaaa gt, tp kok ntar jadi yg paling ‘gaya’ kan ga enak juga.. ahahahk..

tp kadang yg kepikiran mah, cuek aja lagee.. badan2 gue, paling diliatin orang doank.. ehehe..

October 5th, 2007 at 3:38 pm
thornandes

nice topic. . hmm untuk masalah dress-up menurut gw mungkin lebih depends on the occassion dan tempat tujuannya kli ya. . gw pribadi suka ngeliat org yang klo pergi memang dress-up and looks good, thou u can dress-down and still look fabulous too. . tapi ada kalanya gw ngeliat seseorang too much atau lebih tepatnya dress-up tapi gak sesuai. . contohnya di kampus, gw sering menemukan, lots of girls are doing TOO MUCH dress-up. . i mean, hey lo mau kuliah apa mau fashion show apa mau clubbing? atau ada yang sempet pake cute batik dress tp modelnya kyknya gak pas aja untuk dipake sebagai outfit kuliah. .

gw sendiri suka menghadapi keadaan dimana di dalam 1 hari gw harus menghadiri beberapa acara yang beda. . solusinya, gw pake basic look tees + dark jeans (biar klo ke acara formal gak terlalu keliatan itu jeans), tinggal outerwearnya aja yang diganti. . jadi gw selalu membawa beberapa outfit gw (including sneakers, pantofel, stileto, wedges, u name it) di mobil. . jadiii yah intinya siapin aja beberapa cadangan outfit di dlm mobil. . huhuhuhu. .

October 6th, 2007 at 4:42 am
Darling

wahh.. dapet honourable mention di sini hahaa.. yep, i love dressing up! it definitely makes me good about myself. i adore pretty dresses & heels. semoga yg laennya lebih terinspire buat dressing up juga yahh.. wear what you love and make you feel fab!

tapi bener, tetep harus liat sikon. dulu pas kuliah juga dandanan casual donk. pakenya jeans + tees. i like smart casual & preppy look. still have about a dozen pairs of jeans now. sampe sekarang tetep dipake buat sehari2, buying groceries/shopping/travelling/etc (but still, no sneakers). kalo weekdays ke office, ya pakenya corporate wear with basic colours supaya keliatan professional. baru kalo weekends dandan yg girlie2. makanya notice aja biasanya gw jarang pasang foto pas weekdays. hehehe..

so yeah.. for me, dressing up is a way to break the everyday’s pattern, to put myself in a feel-good mood, and, most importantly to celebrate being a woman..

October 6th, 2007 at 7:30 am
dunia_dandan

Oke! Pertama, laki gue sama sekali nggak dressy blas! Gue selalu overdressed. Tapi sekarang mah gue cuek walopun tampil lebih tante2 daripada dia. Tapi bukan dalam artian pake dress atau yg frilly dan lacey, karena itu gak gue banget. Tapi tetep gue tuh rapi dan niat.

[b]Koukla[/b], banyak juga sih baju2 yg baru gue beli belum melihat terangnya matahari karena dikeukeup mulu di lemari. Sebenrnya, mostly bukan karena aye not dare to wear, tapi karena setelah gw pikir2 kok biasa aja ya bajunya, terlalu boring

Kedua, soal dandanan, masalahnya in my real life, nggak ada banci dandan yg kayak gue (that’s why I love De Bancies van FD!). Semua temen gue biasa2 aja makeupnya, malah gak makeupan sama sekali. Kadang2 ciut juga sih ngeliat gue doang yg masuk kantor dueeenngg.. eyeshadow warna Teal, atau bibir merah manyala kayak pinggiran koreng, atau pake eyeshadow sampe 6 warna. Tapi lama2 gue pikir, sutralah, itu kan emang signature gue.

October 6th, 2007 at 7:57 am
cheyqua

keren hanz! hehe. gua rasa ini kembali ke personality masing2 orang yahh. ada yang feel comfy dengan style messy. ada juga yg lebih nyaman dengan rapi2 jali gitu. tapi tulisan lo bener2 inspiring deh. trutama yg:

“when you look in the mirror you just feel too put together that makes you instantly take your jeweled stilettos off and slip into your peep toe flats instead?”

it happened to me a thousand times before! haha.

October 7th, 2007 at 6:58 pm
kembang gula

sebenernya sih, gue ini termasuk orang yang “dandan”. dalam artian, gue sebenernya pengen untuk selalu dress up. tapi ya itu dia bener kata ambung, kembali lagi ke sama siapa kita pergi.

kalo gue pergi dengan orang-orang yang enggak dandan kan males juga yaa. tapi untungnya, sahabat-sahabat gue juga termasuk yang selalu dress up. jadi gue enggak perlu repot-repot kalo mau pergi sama mereka. tapi kalo misalnya gue pergi sama temen-temen sekolah gue dulu (waktu masi jaman SMA), gue malah repot sendiri berusaha buat dress down dengan make sendal dan tas santai kalo pergi. padahal ya, it was so not me!!

sekarang kalo pas kuliah, kadang-kadang gue juga usahain untuk dress down. ya sok-sok messy hair walopun enggak pernah berhasil karena pony tail buatan gue pasti selalu sleek. haha. sok-sok beli converse, padahal gue enggak doyan banget makenya. hahahahaha

waktu pergi juga jadi pertimbangan gue. apakah perginya malem atau siang? pergi malem jelas lebih enak, kita bebas mau pake baju apa aja. toh namanya juga pergi malem, enakan rapih kan? tapii kalo perginya siang bolong, masya Allah, gue repoooooottt banget nyari baju yang bisa bikin gue keliatan lebih santai

October 7th, 2007 at 8:26 pm
Deszell

Wah han bener2 merasa flattered nih gue lo sampe inget sama gue.

Dulu gue emang selalu ngerasa suka gak pede gitu kalo dressed up, soalnya temen2 gue kebanyakkan cowo gitu terus mereka yang kucel gitu. Tapi lama2 gue kayak Dundan juga tuh, ya sutralah emang guenya pada dasarnya gitu. Mau make-upan tebel juga gak apa2. Memang gaya gue gitu kok.

Tapi kadang gue masih berusaha untuk dressed down, kayak si kembgul I traded my heels for my Converse once in awhile. Walaupun tetep dengan make-up medok

October 8th, 2007 at 2:32 pm
putri duyung

waaah… terharu beratt deh nama gw disebut sebut! huehehehe… Hiks hiks… thanks alot ya hanz.

tapi nih artikel menarik banget! bener tuh hanz… gue termasuk sering “dicela” orang karena heboh ndiri kalo pake baju. n there are times itu bikin minder juga… tapi terus gw berpikir, gw ini emng tipe orang yagn suka dressing up. n I dress up to make myself happy not others. bukti paling jelasnya adalah I do really care about what I am wearing when I’m going to sleep (bukan karena gw udah kawin loh. dulu pas masih single tidur sendiri juga gw doyan pae baju tidur bagus)… jadi bodo amatlah sama apa kata orang. hehee…

n kata katanya rachel zoe itu mirip mirip kata abang gw waktu nasihatin ade gw yg kalo dandan takut “keliatan”. dia bilang, “Lo jangan takut dong kalo lo paling dandan terus semua orang ngeliatib. itu artinya elo oke. dan harus bangga”. well I’m thinking in my mind, yes… next time people stare at me because i’m dressing up or even make fun of me, I will take it as a compliment!

October 11th, 2007 at 5:09 pm
trexia

dear all,
it’s my first time put the comment in FD..tulisan hanzky bagus banget,dalemmm..well,gw pikir,inti dari pembahasan itu adalah kita harus punya self confidence.mungkin saja di suatu ketika kita saltum,atau overdressed,tp kita tetap harus bisa berjalan tegak seakan2 nothing’s wrong.krn kl tiap kali kita mau get dressed kita terus2an mikirin apa yang akan terlihat keren dimata orang lain dan bukan apa yang akan terasa nyaman buat kita, maka kita akan terus2an jadi orang lain dan bukannya jadi diri kita.sementara orang lain pun memiliki selera dan penilaian yang berbeda2 pula2.capek donk kalo kita musti memikirikan bagaimana nanti pendapat orang2(notabene berbeda2 itu). pdhl scara umum, tujuan kita get dressed kan agar diri kita menjadi nyaman,menjadi percaya diri dan merasakan bahagia dan bukannya malah jadi salah tingkah di depan orang .
So menurut aku,kita ngga perlu selalu dipusingkan dengan orang lain(tp sesekali perlu mempertimbangkan pendapat orang2 tertentu),selalu berusaha untuk fun dalam kondisi apapun dan paling penting PD,karena dengan PD, maka kitapun jadi enak dilihat

October 23rd, 2007 at 1:14 pm
DwD

wah tulisannya bagus mbak hanzky!
jadi inget tadi sore make tights warna ijo gitu, sempet ragu sih soalnya jarang2 kan orang make tights warna ijo eh tapi tnyata pas lagi di toko, the salesperson compliment my tights! it made my day instantly

October 28th, 2007 at 2:26 am

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